“From being drifted to being driven”

  Stressed and stretched or stretched and stressed??? Whatever is ur answer….First, tell yourself, multitasking is a myth & doing more than one thing at a time makes you less productive. So, here I have a few tips for those who are willing 2 explore n experiment:

A.     Goals: Living a Life w/o a goal is like filling a bottle with a hole.First define yourself & only then define your Goals that align with your personality. Improvise, rather than wasting efforts on improving the past since we just can’t do that, past is passed... Know yourself. Know what you’re looking for before you expect someone else to help you in the search for it.  Find out your madness and then give method to it…

B.     Desire to succeed > fear of Failure:

"Your biggest break most times comes from quitting at the right time. Being at the right place at the right time can only happen when you keep moving towards N.O. i.e. Next Opportunity”.  Respect the effort and treat failure as a worthwhile experience needed to grow and succeed.  Tenacity and Hunger to WIN always trumps Talent in the longer run… & the acronym W.I.N.  also stands for “What’s Important Now”. Stay away from the -“If Only” Syndrome. I’ll elaborate on the “If Only” Syndrome in my next blog, but right now read it as excuses that we give our-self for not doing what we need to do.  

C.     Overcome fear: One Force responsible for making someone fearless??? Love, care, passion, compassion, commitment, conditioning, empathy, devotion, dedication??? PAIN

My pain overcame my fear & now I am trying to transform it into Kindness through my actions, work-Life!!! That’s the most obvious path according to me, as Levoy says, 'People won't pursue their callings until the fear of doing so is finally exceeded by the pain of not doing so.' I have found this to be very true….my pain overcame my fear…..

Change is painful, transition is painful, especially when completely unexpected since we are completely unprepared to embrace the uncertainty. . . But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don't belong. But, “Never rush into a new beginning prematurely”. However, remember the golden rule: “When u stop chasing the wrong things, u give the right things a chance to catch u”. Most of us believe God is almighty. But I believe that we make him almighty with our actions…–

Our pain and struggle defines our success and refines us......... Rock bottom becomes the solid foundation to rebuild & restart life.

Finally, Be Grateful, Honest & Humble but don’t be a doormat; say no to guilt & pity and release yourself from the traps of unnecessary baggage of regrets, remorse and shame.

—  3 cyclic phases of Life:

                            i .  Accident- Event/ tragedy/ unknown fear/ nightmare coming true/ anything sudden

                           ii.  Denial- “I have a control”? Oh, really? Ask urslf…  Accept it, u don’t have complete control over everything - so plzzzzzz let go wats not in ur control!!!

                           iii.  “END": "Every ending is a new beginning”- Embrace it & get ur control back on things that are actually in ur hands!

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” ― Albert Einstein

Be a good Lisder. Most people do not listen to understand; they just hear to reply (and I too sometimes do the same)…many a times on an auto pilot mode. Good Listeners are Good Leaders….

Once you've found your own voice, the choice to expand your influence, to increase your contribution, is the choice to inspire others to find their voice. Inspire means to breathe life into another -Stephen Covey.  

And, your definition of yourself, your dreams, and your goals may modify either due to achievement or boredom- no problem! Shed your skin- While you set your goals and plan ur blueprint, remember to be flexible and open-minded. Emerging circumstances might derail you from your track and even make your destination seem remote or inaccessible. Develop the pragmatism and resilience you need to change tracks, get back on course or set your-self another goal.  “Out of perfection nothing can be made. Every process involves breaking something up.” — Joseph Campbell i.e. just start/restart wherever you are with whatever you have. Continue Exploring & Learning…..Be childlike & when a few stupid or insecure people criticize u, treat it as a first sign of success J

Don’t Dissolve through Selfishness…. instead, Evolve through Empathy- & Inspire…..

Let’s get out of the resent mode and get into the present mode!!!

  Thoughts, Change, Empowerment, Attitude of Gratitude, etc. etc

             Don't wait until you can do it perfectly, or exactly, just do something. That's the polar opposite of my usual train of thought.

             Our thoughts are powerful. How to overcome negative thoughts??? How do I improve my performance/ productivity???? How to channelize our energies positively????  Such sundry questions keep on irritating us on frequent basis, right????

             Today I was feeling very ‘low’ n 'defeated', I was challenged to think about what I want to be, instead of what I am not. So, I pondered on my thoughts for a moment. I thought of all things I want to be, and it was incredible to note the amount of energy that simply flooded through me when I stopped focusing on what I wasn't (feeling well, to start with) and started thinking about what I want (to be healthy, to start with). I honestly felt more awake, less sick, and more hopeful.

            While we don't control which thoughts float in and out of our consciousness, we can control which ones we allow    to stay in there and occupy our mind- as predominant thoughts/ energies. That, I think, is where our power of self belief comes in. There is, quite simply, no way to send these thoughts packing without utilizing our power of Intuition +Instinct and Positive Attitude cum Approach (Mindset Reprogramming).

It's a pretty frightening time in our world's economic history. All around us, people are losing their jobs, killing others / committing suicide. Corruption and Crime is on a rampage. Older folks are putting off retirement out of necessity. Younger ones are feeling lost and insecure. The election has brought out the usual nasty rhetoric. There is not a lot of hope among the masses.

               Now, we could focus on that. Or we can remember the value of Gratitude- 'Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable -- if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – it’s this very moment, the power of NOW! Think about things, the relationships you have and not about what you don’t have. Just count your Blessings!!!

              How about this? From now on, tell to yourself, make a pact with yourself that from today onwards I will pray only positively. Frequent Re-affirmation is the key here according to me. Instead of what I don't want, I will ask for what I do. Instead of noticing the failures, the stupidity, the negative, I'll give thanks for those things that lead me to my goal. A free country (isn't it awesome that we can have dialogue in public?); a prosperous community (isn't it so cool that we all have food on our table and there are so many generous people sharing their wealth?); a bright future (Our present promises to enable us to achieve a better future). Ok, it might sound clichéd to most of us. But………Still, why not? What is there, really, to lose? After all, anything worth doing is worth doing poorly as long as we are not procrastinating, lols. So let’s get out of the resent mode and get into the present mode!!!

Accidental Reflections of My Mind---E 5 – Events, Emotions, Experiences, Expressions, Exposure and Expectations!!!!

All E’s ( Emotions, Experiences, Expressions, Exposure and Expectations) may differ from individual to individual though the first E i.e. Event might  Exactly be the same!!   Today  Morning's Auto ride led me to some thoughts which are as follows :

           Some relationships in our life are just like that between an auto driver and his passenger. The passenger calls the   Auto Driver and then lets him know about his/her preferred destination. The driver then takes the passenger to that destination and leaves him/her over there and then leaves that place immediately!!! They both share the same route till the passenger reaches his/her destination but then the passenger leaves the auto once he/she reaches the destination. Similarly, even we are at some point of our life either the passenger or the Auto-driver………..dats a fact of Life though it may sound bitter (when the emotions are up and in your face to the point where your energy body feels soggy) if we are in the position of the driver and get attached to the passenger. Why is it that some of our favorite and most exciting experiences with others can often lead to us feeling drained or craving attention? Often the answer is that you’re hung over…emotionally that is!!! We might feel empty and alone. Are craving for attention? Feel anxious, hurried and stressed! Lose your motivation to be healthy (mentally and physically). Experience a feeling of excitement quickly replaced by feeling lost!!!!

I felt anxious, isolated, depressed, insecure, angry and completely sad. It's an emotional hangover and I am sure many of you might have at some point of your Life or might experience it in future!!!! 

As with anything, the first time something happens, it catches you off guard. The second and third times it happens you recognize the feeling and start to notice a pattern. Then after another experience or two you have enough data to study it, learn from it and modify your actions. An emotional hangover is no different.

The last thing you’ll want to do when feeing un-resourceful is try to change your state. Do it anyway. Be happy being alone for a while. The path to improvement often starts with experiencing, followed by understanding and finishing with action. The cure is to “unlearn your programming”!!!

     Realize that the world is insane. So much around us is warped, tilted, twirled, mediated and distorted. People who are vastly intelligent, fiercely creative, spiritually centered and socially aware are often dismissed as "nobodies," while people with nothing more than physical beauty, pockets full of money or loud voices are exalted as "kings." The more sensitive a person you are, the more likely you are to feel trampled in this loony bin of a world in which we live.

    Vow to be more particular about with whom you share your spirit and spend your time. The Bible tells not to cast our pearls before swine. If you find that the same people leave you feeling emotionally beaten and battered again and again, perhaps it's time to eliminate those people from your life.

  Regardless of what remedy you choose, trust your intuition about what you’re feeling, and why! Be aware of moving forward- the next time you find yourself in a situation that is likely to cause an emotional hangover, get out!!! AFTERALL I THINK THAT GETTING OUT IS MUCH MUCH BETTER AFTER GETTING LOST, LOLS :)

Can any 1 tel me??????????????

Can any 1 tel me why we are required or rather forced to pray so hard?????? when we can just thank God with Gratitude!

why do we need so many temples/churches when God is in our hearts????

why do we feel so insecure or rather made to feel so if we dnt follow or practice n propagate a particular religion???? apart 4m humanity that is..........

why do we need to accept only one particular God to mk other humans happy???? How ridiculous???? n Finally why the hell will God deny us when we r already his children??? He is our creator, i guess n not our destroyer........ plzzZ think over it rationally!!! And not religiously.................